The Power of Healthy Friendships: Do Yours Have the 4 Essential Qualities?

Valentine's Day is almost here!  

And... its not just for romantic partners....

February isn’t just about romance—it’s also a time to celebrate the love of great friendships. I, personally, believe that friendship is one of life’s greatest treasures.

In my life experience, I've had healthy friendships and I've had to let go of unhealthy "friendships." In my work, there have been many times when I've been asked for guidance in helping my clients recognize the difference between the two and make choices in their own best interest.

A true friend brings joy, support, and a sense of belonging. Deep, meaningful friendships don’t just happen—they require effort, intention, and mutual respect.

Here are the four essential qualities that I have learned build a strong and lasting friendship and help you recognize when a friendship isn’t in your best interest.

1.   A Balanced Exchange of Give and Take

Friendship thrives on mutual effort. If one person is always giving while the other only takes, the connection becomes strained. Strong friendships are built on reciprocity—listening, supporting, and being there for each other in a way that feels fair and fulfilling for both.

2.   Prioritizing the Relationship

Life gets busy, but friendships need attention to flourish. This includes... answering the phone, returning calls, and reaching out first to show that you value the relationship. A simple “thinking of you” message or checking in can mean the world to someone and reinforce the bond you share. I know these little messages have given me a lift when I needed it most.

3.   Loyalty and Confidentiality

Trust is the foundation of any deep connection. When a person who I consider a friend gossips about another, I find myself wondering if they can be trusted. A good friend keeps your secrets safe and stands by you in times of need. Loyalty means being dependable and standing up for each other, while respecting the confidence shared within the friendship.

4.   Avoiding Negativity and Toxicity

Friendship should be a safe space, not a battleground for jealousy, envy, or passive-aggressive behavior. True friends celebrate each other’s successes without competition. They communicate openly, resolve conflicts with maturity, and lift each other up rather than tear each other down.

Great friendships don’t just happen; they are nurtured with care, honesty, and love. When we embody these qualities, we create meaningful connections that last a lifetime.

As we think about the kind of love so often associated with February, let’s not forget that Valentine’s Day is not just for romantic relationships, it also a time to recognize the love of great friendships. Remember when we were little kids and passed out Valentine’s Day cards to our classmates?!  (😉 Just like that!)

With Love,

Donna